My gf or ex gf wherever we stand Anita 8-20-96 , Detroit, Michigan accuses me of only wanting her for sex, but i ask her to do other things with me and she comes over and comes on to me with more - question #3211

Anita may be experiencing internal conflicts between her words and feelings. Her reluctance to be intimate may be due to difficulties expressing emotions or a fear of vulnerability. Try to talk openly about your feelings and desires, as well as what is stopping her from opening up. It is important to create an atmosphere of trust. Temporary distancing may help her understand her true motives. If the situation does not improve, it is worth considering whether the relationship is meeting your needs. Take care of your well-being and, if necessary, seek a healthier relationship.

Whatever you do, she will still act as she sees fit,without asking you without explaining anything to you.She has an impulsive character,but she  is jealous of you,sympathy and love.And no matter how you try to gain her trust ,she will still act as she  does now.She is  like that,you just have to come to terms with her impulsive character and love her.

You find yourself in a very difficult and painful situation. She says she doesn’t want sex, but initiates it herself, and then accuses you of only wanting this. This causes feelings of guilt and doubt, although in fact you try to be caring, attentive and respectful of her boundaries. But it is important to understand: if a person says one thing and does another, this is not just a “difficult character”, this is emotional instability or manipulation. And if she is not ready to build something sincere, you will not be able to pull this relationship out on your own. It is quite possible that she does not love you, truly. She uses sexual intimacy as a way to keep you close, to feel control, significance or to satisfy her inner emotional emptiness. You ask whether it is worth distancing yourself and not responding to her future attempts to get closer — yes, it is worth it. Not in order to punish or re-educate her, but in order to get out of this destructive cycle. This is not a relationship in which you can be happy. When someone repeatedly destroys trust and then accuses you of wanting only one thing from them, it is a signal that the person does not know what he or she wants and ends up hurting those who are really trying to be there. Apparently, you already feel that this relationship is exhausting you. Listen to yourself. Your task now is not to fight for trust, but to preserve your dignity and inner peace.

This person has serious secrets for you, which seriously make you think about his sincerity towards you right now.

Communication is the key to solving any relationship problems. Try talking to Anita openly and honestly about your feelings and needs. Listen to her point of view and try to understand what is behind her behavior. Despite the difficulties, you have the potential to build a stronger and healthier relationship.