How does R feel about me? Should I contact him first? Or should I move on? I see a future with him and I want to marry him but I will leave him in the past even though that dosent align with what I - question #3196

P thinks about you with  hope for your future communication.You can contact him,but there are obstacles on your  way that you will have to overcome,but if you do not overcome, these obstacles,you will not be together.

Let's analyze the energy of your questions based on your birth dates. R.'s feelings for you are ambiguous. He is prone to analysis, doubts, and emotional restraint. R. may have warm feelings, but it is difficult for him to express them openly. In his head, there is a struggle between the desire to be close and the fear of commitment.

Your birth date indicates a strong will and impulsiveness, but in this case, it is worth slowing down. Active expression of feelings can scare R. It is important to create a space where he will feel safe and will be able to express his feelings without pressure.

The decision on further movement depends on your readiness to wait and uncertainty. If you need a clear understanding of the future, then you should consider other options. But if you are ready to be patient and give R. time, then the relationship can develop.

Your desire to get married is understandable, but marriage is a union of two ready people. If R. is not ready, imposing this idea can lead to the opposite result.

The choice is yours. If your respect demands certainty and reciprocity, but R. cannot provide this, it may be worth letting him go. If you are willing to give the relationship a chance, you may have a happy future. Listen to your intuition and make a choice that matches your needs and values.

You need to give the situation some time to see how it develops. Don't rush into making a decision. You're looking for confirmation of his interest, but you're afraid of disappointment.

If he doesn't show any activity towards a relationship (doesn't write, doesn't seek meetings), it can mean several things: He may not be confident in himself or in your feelings. He may be emotionally distant or not ready for a serious relationship. He may perceive a pause as an end or completion of the relationship. But the main thing is that you can't read his mind, and if he doesn't directly say how he feels, you can only guess. It's exhausting and painful.
If you want clarity, then one sincere message from you can be a decent step to dot the i's and cross the t's. But if you are looking for hope that he will love again — then it can hurt you if he does not respond the way you want.
Accept your feelings — they are real and they deserve respect. Accept reality — if R. does not act, then this is also an answer. Give yourself permission to move on — not with regret, but with dignity.